How do you deal…with the roller coaster of feelings?
How do you deal…with the roller coaster of feelings?
Every psychophysical unit receives stimuli from the external environment, and then automatically interprets them according to its own cognitive abilities. The emotions that accompany you every day are in a way a feedback of your attitude towards the situation you are currently in. Although their importance is not in doubt, negative feelings do not belong to the pool of particularly desirable states. Not only do they make you uncomfortable, but when suppressed they can lead to serious health problems, and when over-exalted they can disturb your harmony with others. Although the appearance of a particular emotion at a given moment is out of one’s control, the person feeling it can influence how he or she responds to it. So, how to deal with emotions according to constructive methods?
How to deal with anger?
Anger is often stereotyped as an inappropriate reaction, which should be categorically eliminated. However, its occurrence, conditioned by nature, is an important signal thanks to which you can identify your limits and trigger points. By following a few simple steps, you will learn how to handle situations when anger wants to take command of a situation.
Cool down – when you feel that your anger is robbing you of your ability to rationally assess an event, refrain from taking hasty action. Step back from the discussion or redirect your thoughts to avoid fueling the emotion.
Find the cause – try to analyze what caused the anger. Was it an external stimulus (insubordination of another person) or internal (resulting from your own shortcomings and oversights). If you manage to get to the root of the problem, answer the question what makes you unhappy and what would have to change for the anger to go away.
Confront – if another person’s attitude is responsible for your anger, tell them. Direct communication allows both parties to get a clear view of the issue and to find a satisfactory solution. Conversely, when the irritation has a non-human cause, consider what you can do to act causally on the situation.
In extreme, sporadic cases, when anger turns into the temptation to use violence and you do not know how to deal with aggression, start by taking a few breaths of air or count to 10 in your mind, and then release the accumulated emotions through activities requiring large amounts of energy, such as sports.
How to deal with stress?
Breathing exercises, meditation, listening to music, or other activities you enjoy may be temporary ways to relieve the tension caused by stress. However, when stress becomes chronic, you should consult a specialist who can implement tailor-made solutions.
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